9 WEEK PROGRAM
Growing a better co-parenting relationship with your ex
You’ll pave the way for more trust and understanding with your ex by changing how you respond to those situations that have been most hurtful and frustrating to you both.
Does communication with your ex feel overwhelming?
So, the relationship is officially over, or maybe it’s been over for ages It’s been an emotional roller coaster, yet you still need to communicate them about the kids or other things that need to be sorted. So they’re still in your life and it’s really hard.
Do you feel anxious every time you have to speak to your ex about arranging the kids or finances?
Are you up late at night worrying about how you’ll talk about what needs to be talked about?
Do you feel guilty about things you said or did in the past but don’t feel you can bring them up safely?
Do you leave a conversation with your ex feeling frustrated with how you behaved or expressed yourself?
Are you still angry about things your ex did or said, or failed to do?
Do you feel anxious about the animosity the kids are seeing between you and your ex?
Do you feel unsupported by those around you when they tell you to cut contact with your ex, or go to court?
Do you find yourself carrying resentment, disappointment and fear into every conversation with them?
Do you question how you got into a relationship with your ex in the first place if this is who they really are?
Do you feel stuck, like you can’t find a way forward?
You want to put all your thoughts and feelings aside because it’s no longer about you and the relationship anymore. It’s about the kids and you want them to have a good relationship with both of you. You don’t want your break up with your ex to define their future. But you find yourself stuck and conflicted.
You want your ex to be in the kids’ lives but you can’t stand to be around their volatility.
You want and need routine and structure to get on with your life but they just won’t commit to a routine.
You want to agree to their needs but they don’t seem to care about or want to meet your needs.
You don’t want to give into your ex’s demands but if you don’t they blame you for the whole mess.
You flip between giving in and standing up for your needs, but neither seems to work.
You find you can’t stop yourself from saying things that are spiteful, accusatory or hurtful.
You want them to appreciate how much you’re putting in but when you spell it out they get angry and defensive.
You’re tired of negotiating with them but if you don’t you fear they’ll vanish into their new life, or you’ll lose access to the kids.
If you have reached a point where the thought of talking to your ex loads you up with such anxiety and overwhelm that you feel totally stuck, I want you to consider that it’s possible to have communication that brings you both more clarity, trust and openness.
I want to show you how to regrow a sense of mutual respect and trust so you can step out of the war-zone and back into a place that feels more reliable and workable for you both.
20 Weeks: Regrow trust and mutual respect with your ex
Over the last 20 years I’ve worked with businesses, schools, facilitators, couples and individuals to transform conflict and I’ve seen time and time again that at the heart of all matters each individual has the desire to be heard, appreciated, understood and cared for. I know you want this for yourself and ultimately you also want this for others, including your ex.
I want to show you how to communicate masterfully through all the difficulty and uncertainty you are facing. I want you to discover a kind of communication that will leave you and your ex feeling completely understood, so respect can return.
We’ll dig into our human hardwiring that makes arguing, blaming and defensiveness spark up, and we’ll learn how to break free from argument so you can express your needs in a way that your ex will be able to listen and understand you without reacting.
Over the course of 8 x 90 min sessions over 20 weeks you’ll receive practical communication skills that will help you communicate without argument or blame. You’ll learn to create safety for you both, from which you’ll be able to grow understanding and peace. It’ll be a ‘live training’ in that you’ll practice the skills in your relationships (not just with your ex) until you start having some big wins. You’ll feel more confident and powerful, and you’ll be amazed at what you can now discuss with greater ease.
Learning these communication skills will not only help your relationship with your ex but they will strengthen every relationship you have because you will have the confidence to step toward any challenges that come your way and transform them.
TESTIMONIAL
“I’ve had a massive breakthrough with communication with my ex. I used the tools to hold a space of compassion for him even while he was saying some really hurtful things. I was able to see it so clearly and didn’t take it personally.
He later rang me in tears and completely softened in a way he’s never done before - apologising, taking responsibility, honouring me and really seeing me. It was so beautiful. I really wanted to share this with you as it’s massive for me/us to come to this place and I want to thank you again.”
Bhavani, Perth, Week #2 of Coaching
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Discovery calls take place online via Zoom and cost AU$40. On this call, you can ask Fish questions about the Group Coaching Program.
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Please note: Fish only works one-on-one with clients after they finished the Group Coaching Program.
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